2016 Blessing

I just want to end the year with a post that encourages you to change your mind set for 2016.
I recently meditated on  the quote by Marianne Williamson:
                                                                  
                                                                 "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,

talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

We were born to make manifest the glory of

God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

we unconsciously give other people

permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

Our presence automatically liberates others.

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won't feel insecure around you.

And as we let our own light shine",

My loves, having a baby is a precious gift and you were chosen! Your life has just begun, and has not ended. you will find all the love and joy you need in your process of reflecting on the love of God and how he will lead you through each day. You are not forgotten about, you are worth more than a thousand rubies. You are so brilliant, smart and you will be extremely successful! It is your time! Shine!

Soul Assignment: 

Look in the mirror and say " I love you"  

-Arielle

Fighting For Peace

Hello Ladies and the guys too!!

I know I have not posted in about two weeks! Well a lot went on, I would say I needed a break. I actually changed my hours at work and was going though a test run to make sure the time change worked. ( And it will work) I need  to balance out my job and my career in a more healthy way. I spend way to much time worrying about my current job and not enough time with my family, friends, church and my career! I love my job, but dang! lol

Anyway this post today is to just let all the young moms know that  it is so important to balance out your life!
Do not over work yourself! It is not worth it trust me! Don't be scared to say No,,
 It is okay if someone get's upset with you, you are fighting for your peace at mind. We all know the devil hates peace. So anytime we are trying to fight to get it, he is going to stir something up.. he so so petty, petty, petty!! lol

Be focused, meditate, pray, fast, give and grow. You are such an important vessel. Take care of your mind , body and spirit. they all work together in your markup.


Soul Assignment: 


Define your definition of peace-

Define peace from a dictionary-

When do you feel most at peace?

Using your resources

It takes a village 

Guys when I tell you the saying “It takes a village to raise a child" is the truth I mean it!! 

Today was  a big wake up call for me. I was extremely tired, frustrated and overwhelmed. See I live alone. I don't have the luxury of having someone to  help me carry the burdens of life! I would not even call them burdens. I think it is just the load that comes with having a well-balanced and healthy life! 

Like I said in a past post. There are so many things that need to managing to keep yourself together, however, I failed to mention Family, Friends and Mentors! This has to be the biggest resources that you will need while raising your little one. You cannot do it alone! If the universe wanted you to raise a child alone, it would have allowed you to conceive a child alone. The universe makes no mistakes, everything is aligned perfectly and with purpose. 

A child needs love, family and freedom! You do too! You are still young, you need your family! My loves please don't think just because you are pregnant or a new parent that you have to do things by yourself,  NO!  Why should you? It takes a village! 

. Now I will say that having a child will require you to step it up. However,  You are going to need help and I really mean it!! You are going to need Mental, Emotional, Physical, Spiritual and Financial support. The wonderful thing about being a family is that there is plenty of Love and support. Love is unconditional! It forgives, it nurtures and it protects. Having a child may not have been a part of your plan right now, but that is okay. every child is a precious gift! 

Soul Assignment 

1. Who is in your village? (Name people you would consider your "loved ones" This can be family, friend’s co-workers, anyone you can confide in) 

2 How do you feel about asking for help?

3 Why do you think you feel that way?

4 Define Mental Health, Emotional Health, Physical health, Spiritual Health

- What are some ways to become healthy...Name the practices. 

Fun with your child

Bonding is something that I am working on. However, it is essential that you take a moment to really get to know your child. Not just recognizing the behavioral patterns of your child, but really have conversation with them and take the time out to 'be there friend" there is nothing wrong with building that bond with your child. I feel that it is necessary for a healthy open communication relationship. The love can be well balanced with respect. 

I would say that I struggle in this area. I feel that I am distant from my child. I feel that I don't spend a lot of time with her. I am not the type of mom who wants to "play" with my child. I love to comfort, love and nurture her but "play" not so much. However, I am going to have to stretch myself out a little more and try and do more fun things with my daughter. I am very affectionate with her, I love snuggling, hugging and comforting her, but I guess I am just no fun! lol.

However, when I can I do bring her out to places and we do activities that I enjoy and she enjoys. Something entertaining for both her and myself.  I am not the type of mom who really wants to "fake it" I really would like to have fun too! I do not like boring play dates. I like fellowship! I like to be able to talk to a friend while my child plays I think that is a healthy balance.

Speaking on balance, this past weekend I learned there has to be a balance when it comes to spending time with your child and having your alone time. Being in my early 20s I tend to want to “turn up ” and go out, as much as I can without my daughter and just as a single woman. Just so I can go socialize with other people in my age group. I mean I am young, I want to experience young adulthood, it is mine to live! Yes, it is okay to enjoy your youth, it belongs to you, your life is still yours and it is up to you to live it. There just has to be a balance.

 ( And let me just say that my "turn up" is usually out with young Christians like myself. I am NO club hopper or bed hopper JSYK lol) {that is  another blog post}

Soul Assignment.

How do you guys bond with your child?

What are new some ways you can bond with your child?

Do you feel that you have a heathy balance with your child and you? If so please explain why, if not please also explain why..and what do you think you need to do to get that accomplished. 

Step Inside My Head!!

It will not be easy not for one second but here is a little bit of an example of what goes on inside my head.  Have fun guys!!! 

Here we go......................

Children - I love my daughter, I love being her mother. I love nurturing her, loving on her, I love shopping for her, reading her stories, taking her out with me, doing her hair shoot I just like staring at her sometimes… I always wish I could do more. I wish I could be more of a classroom parent at her school, and I wish I could spend more time with her! 

Home   When I moved into my apartment I did not realize how much goes into managing a household. The bigger the home, the more to clean. I have not cracked the code to keep all my room spotless for more than an hour! 

Education -   I had my daughter when I was 19 years old. I was a sophomore in college, so because of my embarrassment and lack of encouragement I dropped out of my school and took a year off. I then enrolled into an online university. I love going to school online, it is not for everyone but it is especially designed for a person who is trying to manage their life and education at the same time.  

Job/ Career -I don't work just your normal 9-5 my job requires so much more than that. It requires me to be creative, strategic and organized. Because of the requirements it is easy to fall into the "corporate America" mind set...which is similar to a robot! Lol   

Finances- This one is a fun time! Lol (Totally being sarcastic) I cannot tell you guys how many times I have written out my budget, I constantly do it...and then I come up with a genius financial  plan . But then somehow I just end up at one of my favorite stores and I say to myself "hmmm I won't miss $24.99" "oh this meal is only $10.00" "Oh just $5.99!?" "would you look at that sale 50% off" BIG MISTAKE! Budgets  are sooooo important to keep!

Spiritual Life - I am giving myself a pat on the back. For the last two months I have been in church every Sunday!!! I have also dedicated myself to be a part of the fine arts ministry! Having some type of spiritual balance is the most important for your soul. Let me tell you, being spiritually healthy is the key to keep this craziness together! Lol...Spirituality does not necessary mean church...but church is still a necessity, it will keep you in line. However spirituality should be done the most at home. It is mediating, reading, eating a healthy diet, spending time outside. Doing things good for your soul! 

Yourself having time for you! Sooo this really does tie into spirituality a lot. However you are a vessel that needs to make sure you take care of your outward appearance and things that make you feel good as well. I can't wait to get into this a little more and the balance it does take!!!

 Relationships - So I am not in a relationship...( not saying I want one,,,but not saying I would turn down the opportunity to meet Mr. Right lol) However, if you are in a relationship you want to make sure you take time for the relationship and really get to know your spouse. Relationships are important because it is your life support system. It is a wonderful thing to have someone like minded that can motivate and support  you to get all these things done plus more! 

Soul Assignment 

1. What is your daily routine?

2. Where do you want to see the most improvement?

3. How do you think you can improve?

4. What can you do to improve it?

5. Please erase all the (I ) in question  4 and replace them with (We) {you now have support}